Your videos are still on your posts - I just put the text before the videos so the videos wouldn't load to the home page - they do seem to have been hanging the site up.

It may be a browser issue for some people - it may be a bandwidth issue - about 800 visitors to realNEO a month are on dial-up...

Videos can be a real problem and we can't have the site load slowly - when it comes down to technical problems they need to be solved the moment they are noticed - if a table blows out the CSS code, a photo is wider than 650 pixels, or a video loads slow, I'm going to figure out the problem and fix it immediately and then try to figure out how to prevent the problem in the future - we have to consider 1,000s of page loads a day here

The fact is that if a webpage loads slowly people just leave before it loads, and nothing gets read, so it doesn't help anyone to have content on a website that doesn't work.

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STICKS AND STONES

The following excerpt is from the self help
psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.

On the playgrounds of our youth we all heard the old phrase, "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." Unfortunately, many societal groups seem intent today upon claiming that words too always hurt. Whoever believes this gets to feel hurt a lot and is always at the whim of some person out there. Personal power is lacking.

It has only been in recent years that significant questioning of a hurt response to such verbal slings and arrows has developed. In the gay/lesbian movement there has been much recent discussion over the words "fag" and "queer" with many of the younger generation of gays and lesbians claiming those labels publicly. (Young blacks sometimes calling each other "nigger" has been a parallel development). By so doing, these younger men and women are increasing their self-esteem as well as making it impossible for homophobic/ racist bashers to bother them with words. This healthier response is an example of empowerment. A few happier activists are even coming to a belief that there is no such thing as adult verbal harassment. They are viewing claims of verbal victimization very differently. Their view is that claimants of verbal harassment have often thrown away possibilities for verbal repartee and capabilities for moving away.

The process of name-calling is typically based upon feeling not OK, and name-callers are trying to make themselves feel more powerful by using the process. If I call you a name and get you upset, then I temporarily feel more powerful because I had a powerful effect upon you. My self-esteem rises at your expense. I project my unhappiness on to you and you take it on if you allow yourself to be upset. If you do not get upset at my attempt, then I cannot dump my original unhappiness on you. Then I am left not only with my failure to successfully dump it on you but also with my original unhappiness to boot. Thus, if you're successful at being unbothered by my words, then I wind up more unhappy; and I'll probably quickly stop those words. This is a key element to understand, that name-callers will usually feel worse if you do not react to their name-calling. They will therefore be much quicker to stop such behavior than if you get visibly upset.

Someone call you a name? Whenever you hear such a name directed your way, thoughts along the lines of, "The name-caller is feeling weak right now" will help to prevent a possible hurt for you. Another useful self-thought is, "Whatever people say about me says nothing about me but a lot about them." We would be happier, feel more self-esteem and change the world dramatically if we all thought the following, "If I get upset by someone calling me a name, then I have given away my power and I need to make a different choice."

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for acknowledging the goddess debwebb. Now quit your bellyaching and learn to load your videos so that my computer doesn't grind to a halt when your post them. It is so bad that sometimes I can't visit realneo....is that the real intent on your part? Just kidding.  Not everyone has the latest, up to date computer system that you and yogi enjoy, so unless you intend to discriminate against us lesser tech users, make it so that we can all sit in the middle of the bus.

to install stuff in this newer, faster computer, maybe some icearth, then let me know. I will need a monitor and keyboard too as my old imac has the computer and monitor as one unit. Let me know how it works out.

Does not get you off the hook though, just with me, cause there are still a lot of users with older computers that verge on crashing when they ecounter one of your wild videos that takes 15 minutes to download, and the computer freezes, and I can't do anything else cause your post have taken over my computer. It will stop me from complaining, though.

Let me know,

goddess debwebb